Tip: You will find exactly what you are looking for!


A while back I had an unusual experience. I had dinner with a friend of mine who is in real estate. Because the economy was weak at the time, I expected him to tell me that things were not going very well in his business. Boy was I surprised! He told me that he was having the best year in real estate that he ever had and business was “booming”. He was so positive and upbeat about everything that it completely caught me off-guard. I asked him what he was doing differently. He smiled and said, “I am looking for opportunities. They are everywhere!” I was amazed to discover that here was a guy who was actually practicing what I teach…and he was practicing it better than I was teaching it! I soon realized it is one thing to encourage others to look for and expect good things in their life, but quite another to find people who are actually doing it!

I walked away from dinner with my friend feeling very encouraged. He helped me to see that the power of the spoken word is still true. And, so is the principle of “positively expecting” to find what we want in life. Just because a person chooses not to practice or act upon those principles does not change the truth of them one bit!

Henry Ford once said, “There are two kinds of people in this world: those who think they can’t do anything and those who think they can do everything. And you know what? They are both right!” Expectations matter.

Zig Ziglar once said, “Positive thinking won’t MAKE you do anything! But it will HELP you do everything better!” Positive expectations matter even more!

As you well know, we live in a world where there is a lot of uncertainty. The television and the news do not usually help matters. They often make matters worse. So that begs the question, “Who are you listening to for your direction and encouragement in life?”

Are you looking for the best in the areas of life that are really important to you? What about your faith, family, finances, or future? Or, are you blaming the difficult times you may be experiencing on something or someone else? After dinner with my friend and seeing how he was practicing those principles, I asked myself those same questions and I had to admit some adjustments were needed. It is important to learn from our mistakes. Since I saw someone actually practicing what I was preaching, it changed my tune. I have been much more proactive and positive since that experience, and the reason is very simple – I want to find what I am looking for in life.

May I ask you a question? What are you looking for in your life? Are you looking for a relationship to get better, or are you willing to just settle for a mediocre existence with that other person? Are you blaming difficult times in the world on illness or finances or other people, or are you looking for a great opportunity that may be just around the next corner? I could go on and on, but I think you get the idea. What you are looking for is what you will find. What you are talking about is what you will bring about. What you are seeking is what you will eventually find. It is just a fact of life.

None of us live in a vacuum. If we go through life with a defeated attitude, the only thing we will ever experience is defeat. If we go through life being frustrated and having a bad attitude, those seeds of discontent will produce more of the same. I am not talking about a “pipe dream” or some “pie-in-the-sky” philosophy; I am talking about the reality of attracting the good, the pure, and the positive things of life. Those things somehow seem to find the people who are seeking them and consistently talking about them.

Take a minute to ask yourself what kind of person is attractive to you. Is it someone who is “belly-aching” all the time about everything that is going wrong, or is it someone who is excited about life, their future, and the opportunities that they are seeking on a daily basis. I think the answer is obvious!

As I mentioned earlier, I had a good dose of reality come my way recently and I am glad it happened! It made me feel as though I had just taken a good, clean shower and was ready to start my day afresh and anew.

Regardless of your circumstances or situation, learn to “fake it until you make it”. Decide to have a good attitude and be positive and upbeat about everything. Speak words of life and happiness and good fortune into your day. Greet people around you with a warm smile. Laugh more, enjoy life, and get rid of the “sour-puss” attitude that is pulling you down. It can change in a matter of minutes when you decide to make it happen.

I hope this concept brings joy, happiness and success to everything in your life. I believe the potential for the best for your life is still yet to come. Opportunity for the future knows no limits. They are all just sitting there waiting for someone to take them. All you have to do is start looking and you will find them. I promise!

Tip: You will find exactly what you are looking for!

Have a great week! God bless you!

Dr. Robert A. Rohm

Dr. Robert A. Rohm, Ph.D.

Dr. Robert A. Rohm, Ph.D.

Top selling author and speaker, Robert Rohm Ph.D. is founder of Personality Insights Inc. and The Robert Rohm Co. As you will see, Dr. Rohm specializes in helping people better understand themselves and others.