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A while back one of my grandsons fell and broke his arm. He had to have a cast on his arm all summer long. Having to wear a cast in the hot summer months is not a lot of fun for an active boy! After the accident happened, the doctor took a lot of time to set my grandson’s arm back into place correctly. When the cast was finally removed, the doctor said that his arm was healing nicely, but it would be necessary for him to wear a splint for a few more weeks. The doctor wanted to be sure the break healed up correctly and not crooked. My grandson was happy when he told me that his arm would be all well again by Labor Day! Whether it is a broken bone or a broken heart, the most important thing that can happen to a person is that their injury or mishap eventually heals back correctly.
Almost everyone I have talked to lately seems to have had a huge disappointment in their life. And, I am certain that everyone reading this Tip has at one time or another experienced hurt and disappointment or has been let down by a friend or family member. It is just part of life. How we respond to those situations may determine what will eventually happen to us in our future.
I am sure you have heard the expression that everything in life either makes us bitter or better. That is more than an old cliché; it is the truth. If you were short-changed in a past business deal, it can cause your heart to be hardened and make it difficult to trust anyone again in future business opportunities. If you have been disappointed or rejected by another person, it can have severe ramifications in your ability to ever trust or love someone else in the future. It is impossible to go through life without someone hurting your feelings. Eventually, it is going to happen. There is no way to escape the unfortunate disappointments that come with life. However, if you believe that what has happened to you in the past is an accurate indicator of what will happen to you in the future, then your heart has healed in a crooked manner. It just isn’t straight any more. And, you are the only one who can do anything about it.
If that is the case, perhaps it is time to straighten out your heart and let it heal correctly. After all, who wants to go through life feeling like the relationships that have occurred to them have left them bent and crooked? A break may have occurred but healing is still available.
I understand that when a bone breaks, after it is properly set and heals, it will be stronger in that location than it was before the break originally occurred. The nature of healing is designed to teach us that we can be better after an injury than we were before it ever happened. Life is a wonderful teacher and the lessons that we need to learn will come our way sooner or later.
I believe I have learned more from the failures in my business endeavors than in all of the other combined successes. That is because those failures have taught me which way to go. They have made my path straight, rather than crooked. And, in my relationships, I can honestly say that I am grateful for every failed relationship that I have ever experienced with another person. Those experiences have caused me to be more sensitive and more gentle, loving, kind, and patient. My failures in relationships have helped me to become a better listener. They have given me the necessary wisdom I need for all of my current and future relationships.
When you go through a difficult time and your heart gets “bent out of shape,” it is up to you to straighten out, in time. It is certainly permissible to feel hurt for a while, but it is not good to get “stuck in hurt” for the rest of your life. Never let a season of mourning turn into a lifetime of mourning.
I don’t know where you are in your journey at the present time, but I hope and pray that you will not allow your heart to heal in a crooked manner. Rather than living a life full of disappointment and hurt, be willing to take another chance. Learn how to accept the situations and circumstances that have come your way. Part of the curriculum that has been assigned to you in life is to learn how to let past hurts make you better and not bitter. That is how your future path will become successful and straight. Allow the difficulties and heartaches of life to teach you the lessons you need to learn in order to become the person you were designed to be! I know you will receive this Tip and become the person you were designed to be!
Tip: When your heart breaks it can heal back crooked!
Have a great week! God bless you!
Dr. Robert A. Rohm