Tip: Go where you are celebrated, not just tolerated!


Tip of the Week

Tip:  Go where you are celebrated, not just tolerated!

One of the greatest challenges that all of us will face during our life is knowing where to spend our time.  As you well know, all of us are allotted the same amount of time – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days per year (and 1 extra day on Leap Year).  But, what we do with that time is up to each of us individually.  How we spend that time and who we choose to spend it with is important.  Our choices can make a huge difference in our life and in the lives of those we interact with, as well.  Since that is the case, my suggestion is to go where you are celebrated…not just tolerated.

Perhaps you enjoy being part of some sort of sports team where your teammates pat you on the back, coaches commend your good work, and those in the stands jump up and cheer for you.  Who wouldn’t feel good about that?!

Do you work with those who value your contribution to the business?  Is there a sense of camaraderie and teamwork?  Sure, every organization has its ups and downs, but knowing that you are making a positive contribution and that your work is valued and appreciated by other people causes you to feel celebrated, too.

Maybe you are part of a church or social group where friends are glad to see you when you come in and you are glad to see them.  There is a sense of peace and contentment that comes when relationships are formed where there is mutual care and concern for each other.  Nothing feels quite as good as being celebrated and validated.

Sadly, one of the places that we often feel the least celebrated is with our own family.  Someone once said that the phrase, “familiarity breeds contempt” originated with families.  Perhaps that is true.  Within the family structure, it is easy to take each other for granted and not be able to appreciate each other for their unique contribution.

Over the years, I have also seen someone try to bring about change in their life or do something different only to be “shot down” by a family member who rains on their parade with negativity and is quick to tell them why it won’t work or why it will never happen.

Don’t get me wrong…I love my family, and I’m sure you love yours, too.  But, if your family does not celebrate you or encourage your desire to grow, it would be wise to limit your time with them and invest your time with people who can and will support you in your dreams and goals.  Life is too short to get your direction from people who do not see your potential and celebrate the fact that you want to be different… and special!

It is important to find people who are doing the kinds of things you aspire to do and hang out with them.  Let them rub off on you and allow them to be your mentors and teachers.

Two of the most influential people in my life have both passed away.  I had the privilege of knowing, working with, and spending a lot of time with Charles “Tremendous” Jones and Zig Ziglar.  Both of those men celebrated me.  I found that so odd because I so admired them!  But, that is the way it works.  When you spend time with people you admire, love, and want to be like, it won’t be long until you begin to become like them and they begin to celebrate you as well.

I hope you receive this Tip in the manner and purpose in which it is intended.  It is meant to encourage you and give you direction.

Check out your environment this week and listen to what people are saying about you.  If there needs to be improvement in your life, then make it.  But, be sure to hang around with people who edify, encourage, lift you up and let you know they believe in you.  They are the winners in your life and will help you to be a winner, too!

Tip:  Go where you are celebrated, not just tolerated!

Have a great week!  God bless you!
Dr. Robert A. Rohm

Dr. Robert A. Rohm, Ph.D.

Dr. Robert A. Rohm, Ph.D.

Top selling author and speaker, Robert Rohm Ph.D. is founder of Personality Insights Inc. and The Robert Rohm Co. As you will see, Dr. Rohm specializes in helping people better understand themselves and others.